From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

Simple logic from a simple man

March 18, 2019

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I was born and reared in Duncan, Oklahoma -- town of about 25,000 people. Duncan is the home of Halliburton Oil Company. Out of six grade schools -- I went to Will Rogers Elementary. We had other grade schools named after famous people -- Plato - Emerson - Horace Mann - Woodrow Wilson - and Mark Twain. The other schools featured scholars, politicians, and writers. But Will Rogers was a simple man who gave simple answers to life circumstances.

Will Rogers, who died in a 1935 plane crash with Wylie Post, was probably the greatest political sage this country ever has known. He was known for his cowboy movies and his dry humor. He had country logic that usually made good sense. His thought process wasn't the same as most people because he saw life from a different set of eyes.

While there were schools that were named after Will Rogers -- I always felt strange flying out or into Oklahoma City since the airport is named Will Rogers Airport. Never made too much sense to name an airport after a man who died in a plane crash.

However -- I thought you might enjoy the wit of Will Rogers.

1. Never slap a man who's chewing tobacco.

2. Never kick a cow chip on a hot day.

3. There are two theories to arguing with a woman . . .Neither works.

4. Never miss a good chance to shut up.

5. Always drink upstream from the herd.

6. If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

7. The quickest way to double your money is to fold it and put it back into your pocket.

8. There are three kinds of men: The ones that learn by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them who have to pee on the electric fence and find out for themselves.

9. Good judgment comes from experience, and a lot of that comes from bad judgment.

10. If you're riding' ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it's still there.

11. Lettin' the cat outta the bag is a whole lot easier'n puttin' it back.

12. After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you're full of bull, keep your mouth shut.

Old friend Robert said, "Too many people spend money they haven't earned to buy things they don't want to impress people they don't like."



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From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

My mom just turned 92

March 11, 2019

It is hard to believe that my mom just had her 92nd birthday. She is doing quite well and was glad I could travel to Oklahoma to celebrate with her another year.

We had fun talking about past years and we laughed about ways to know you are getting older.

Over the past several years -- I have a list on "How to know you are getting older."

So -- I have some tidbits regarding getting older that you might find amusing. Just casual observations for those who hate getting old.

  1. I finally got my head together (though that's debatable), now my body is falling apart.
  2. All reports are in. Life is officially unfair.
  3. I started with nothing and I still have most of it.
  4. If all is lost -- where is it?
  5. It is easier to get older than it is to get wiser.
  6. If at first you do succeed - try not to look astonished.
  7. The first rule of holes: If you are in one - stop digging.
  8. I tried to get a life once, but they told me they were out of stock.
  9. I went to school to become a wit, but I only got halfway though.
  10. It was so different before everything changed.
  11. I wish the buck stopped here. I could use a few.
  12. It's not the impact of life that concerns me, it's the sudden stop at the end.
  13. It's hard to make a comeback when you haven't been anywhere.
  14. If God wanted me to touch my toes, He would have put them on my knees.
  15. Never knock on death's door - ring the bell and run (he hates that!).
  16. Lead me not into temptation (I can find the way myself).
  17. When you are finally holding all the cards, why does everyone else decide to play chess?
  18. If you are living on the edge, make sure you're wearing your seatbelt.
  19. There are two kinds of pedestrians. The quick and the dead.
  20. A closed mouth gathers no feet.

    And finally...You know you're getting older when...
  • You're asleep, but others worry that you're dead.
  • Your back goes out more than you do.
  • You quit trying to hold your stomach in, no matter who walks into the room.
  • You are proud of your lawn mower.
  • Your arms are almost too short to read the newspaper.
  • You sing along with the elevator music.
  • You enjoy hearing about other people's operations.
  • You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.
  • People call at 9 p.m. And ask, "Did I wake you?"
  • The end of your tie doesn't come anywhere near the top of your pants.
  • (My daughter Lexis' favorite) You wear black socks with sandals.
  • Your ears are hairier than your head.
  • You talk about "good grass" and you're referring to someone's lawn.
  • You get into a heated argument about pension plans.
  • You got cable for the weather channel.

Old friend Robert said, "The best advice is to keep breathing -- If you don't - you're a real goner."



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From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

A gift to be shared all year round

March 5, 2019

One of the "Happy Days" episodes that I will always remember was when the Fonz made a mistake and was faced with having to say he was sorry to Richie. Each time he would build up his courage to say he was "wrong" -- but as he got ready to say the word his mouth wouldn't allow him to formulate the word -- no matter how hard he tried.

The reason why was that the Fonz was never "wrong" - or so he thought. He did his best to say "wrooooooooongggggg" -- but it never would come out clearly.

The fact is - we all make mistakes and to those we have offended -- we need to seek their forgiveness. When I get myself straightened out - then maybe I will be qualified to help someone else.

I believe I have lived long enough to be qualified to say the following.

Because we all fail at times in life -- I believe it should be our posture in life to be willing to forgive before we condemn. The way the media deals with public figures is astounding in our society today -- as if those same people have never made a mistake. I agree that those in the limelight have a little more responsibility as to their actions, but we all fail no matter the size of our audience.

It seems that we live in a world where forgiveness is not a high priority in life.

Now the entire world has at their disposal social media to express their thoughts no matter how insane some of the thoughts are toward others.

One thing for sure -- forgiveness is on the short list of most people.

Mark Twain once said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

I have found that 'forgiveness' is a word that applies to me in seeking and granting it. There are times that I have to seek the forgiveness of those I have offended. At other times, I must grant forgiveness to those who request it from me. Pity the person who does neither; who thinks they have wronged no one or are above righting a wrong they may have created.

As our relationships deal with others, it is interesting to see how people deal with others when a mistake has been committed.

There are two kinds of people -- the responders and the reactors.

The responders are those who know how to think things through and put themselves in the shoes of those who have committed the mistake. They have an immediate spirit of forgiveness instead of a spirit of condemnation.

The reactors are those who immediately fly off the handle and usually end up saying things they later regret.

As a reminder - each year we celebrate Easter to hear those eternal words spoken in love from the cross, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." Those words still echo across the heavenly skies.

Old friend Robert said, “Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them. If you cannot forgive and forget -- pick one."



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From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

The second mile in life

January 21, 2019

As a parent - we are always seeking to teach our children the right way of doing things. It is only natural, particularly for teenagers, to do the minimum.

My youngest daughter, who is now married and has a one-year-old daughter, was a social butterfly when she was growing up. She has always been very thoughtful and caring, but she also has a mind of her own.

One of the few chores she had at home (a term used by old people from childhood) is to do the dishes. That means once a day...not when she felt like it or when both sinks were piled full and we are having to eat off paper plates.

There were times she was walking out the door and I reminded her she wasn't leaving until the dishes were done -- which means I got to hear the purse slam on the floor and a few huffs and puffs. But at the least the dishes got done.

Now that she is a mom -- she has already started to let us know how she is going to lay down the law with Leighton. We'll see!

The phrase "going the second mile" has found its way into our modern jargon. It has its roots in first-century Palestine. The Romans had conquered much of the known world. One of the marvels of their conquest was a vast system of super highways which they had built to and from their conquered territories. There were over 50,000 miles of these Roman roads throughout the empire. At each mile was a stone marker.

The New Oxford English Dictionary calls them "guide stones." These guide stones pointed direction, determined distance, warned of dangers and each one of them had the miles to Rome etched upon them. Hence the phrase, "all roads lead to Rome."

By Roman law a Roman citizen could compel a subject from one of the conquered lands to carry his backpack, or load, for him for one mile, but one mile only.

Guide Stone #1 - The mandated mile – motivated by law

The first mile is always the hardest. Ask the distance runner for example. But if it were not for the first mile, there would be no possibility of the second mile. We live in a world where many do not even make it to the first mile marker. That is, they do not even do what is required of them at the office, at home, at church, at school, or wherever. The first mile is vitally important. It is what makes us function. It is that which is required of us.

Guide Stone #2 – the miracle mile – motivated by love

This mile is motivated by love and respect. What is it that separates some from others in the world of athletics? The second mile, doing what is required and then some. What separates some from others in the arts or in education or wherever? It is this principal of the second mile.

You may be required to carry someone's load the first mile. You have the right to stop. But the true act of love for others is going the extra mile when you don't have to. Why not try it? The one you help will be grateful and you will have joy in your heart that the world can't give.

Old friend Robert said, "One of the most important principles of success is developing the habit of going the extra mile. The man who does more than he is paid for will soon be paid for more than he does."



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From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

Life is measured by what you have learned

January 15, 2019

One thing I have a hard time with is being around people who seem to be so miserable. Do you know what I mean? When I think of that first sentence -- my mind immediately goes to a couple I saw a little over a year ago at a sporting event. I don't know their names - but I have never seen them smile, but I sure have seen and heard how miserable they are by the way they have talked to others -- especially people they don't know.

I am a firm believer in laughter and making others laugh. It seems that no matter where I go -- I find myself around people who feel the same way. Yet - when those who are miserable enter the room -- they continue to wear that scowl on their face and it doesn't take long for them to feel uneasy in their surroundings and leave.

Someone once said, "If you say you are happy -- then make sure you tell your face so others will know it."

I love the word "joy" and it should translate into happiness. But I have also learned that "joy" is an inside job. There is no way that you can express outward joy unless it begins inside your heart. You can't manufacture it. You certainly can't be in a room full of people who have joy and try to fool others because those who have inside joy can spot a fake a mile away.

My mother-in-law is named Joy. My oldest daughter is named LeJoy - which means "The Joy!" My one-year-old granddaughter is named Leighton Joy. All three are a joy to my life.

I have spent years collecting things that "I've learned..." Perhaps a few more will bring joy and peace to your life.

  • I've learned...That money doesn't buy class.
  • I've learned...That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
  • I've learned...That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
  • I've learned...That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
  • I've learned...That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
  • I've learned...That love, not time, heals all wounds.
  • I've learned...That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
  • I've learned...That there's nothing sweeter than holding your grandbabies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.
  • I've learned...That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
  • I've learned...That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
  • I've learned...That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
  • I've learned...That I can choose how I feel.
  • I've learned...That when your newly born child or, in my case, grandchild holds your little finger in their little fist, that you're hooked for life.
  • I've learned...That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs in the valley.

I trust that you are experience great blessing at the start of a new year. May 2019 be your greatest year ever as you continue to learn life's lessons.

Old friend Robert said, "They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for. The most wasted of all days is one without laughter."



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From the Cluttered Desk... by Dr. David Davis

Four reasons our resolutions don't work

January 8, 2019

Four reasons our resolutions don't work

The health clubs and the spas, do they love January! And beyond probably. Business skyrockets when December bulges turn to January workouts. The infamous New Year's resolution: A resolution according to the dictionary is "A firm decision to do or not to do something." Unfortunately, research shows that about 88% of our resolutions won't happen.

It's not that we aren't sincere; we want to improve. We want to be healthier. We want to spend more time with the family, get out of debt, do better in school, clean out the junk in our house, maybe in us. So why do our great intentions so often end up in failed commitments?

Number one, we're not specific.

Goals have to be more than just general intentions. "I'm going to get in shape." "I want to make more of a difference." Those intentions probably won't succeed. We need to be more specific and measurable enough to give a person a decent shot at really changing.

Here's the second reason I think we fail. We're not accountable.

A resolution between me, myself and I is just too easy to forget. But when you announce to several key people the commitment you've made, you've put yourself on the line to do it.

Here's a third reason that our resolutions fail. We give up too soon.

You know, babies learn to walk by a process that I call "step ... boom!" They fall down, but they don't stay down. They get up! Next time it's "step, step, step ... boom!" Until one day they're rocketing across the room. My one-year-old granddaughter, Leighton, is now going through that process!

Sadly, when we fall down in our effort to do better, don't we often just stay down? But one day's failure is just one day's failure. One day - keep it that way. Get up and keep walking!

And the final reason - maybe the most important of all - why we don't improve like we want to improve is we've got a power shortage.

Especially when it comes to the changes that really matter, like breaking the cycle that's hurting the people you love, conquering that dark part that's brought you down again and again, moving beyond the pain of your past, attacking that fatal flaw that has cost you so much.

We may joke about various resolutions, but deep in our heart, we long to change or adjust some attitudes, actions, or habits that we don't like about ourselves.

I have decided that I am going to exercise. Certainly not the same way I did when I was playing college football -- but I am going to do more than lift a fork to my mouth.

A few years ago -- my kids bought me a new bike. I haven't ridden it much -- so then they decided that I needed a stationary bike. That way I can't make excuses about the elements being too hot, too cold, too wet, etc.

I did ask them to get the kind where I can hang a bag of chips on the handle bars on one side and a bag of candy on the other....OK - I'm just kidding.

Over the past two years, I have lost over 20 pounds so I am on the right track. I would like to get rid of a little more so I hope that I will see that happen in 2019.

Old friend Robert says, "What the New Year brings to you will depend a great deal on what you bring to the New Year."

Here's to a most blessed New Year and watching Judge Judy while riding on my indoor bike!



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