From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

My cup runneth over

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Do you remember when it was all right to fill your cup with coffee -add all the ingredients, then to tip the cup at an angle so the coffee could spiII over into the saucer and slurp your coffee?

You say - "I haven't seen that lately." Well, neither have I because that is not a "proper" practice of etiquette in today's society, but how I remember my grandma and grandpa sitting in their small house, playing cribbage and slurping their coffee.

That used to drive me nuts. I'm sure some of you sophisticates would have to be honest to say you remember the same slurping noise when you were growing up.

As I got older and became familiar with the Bible, it caused me to think about the words of the Psalmist in Psalms 23:5 - "My cup runneth over."

How I am reminded of the overflowing blessings of life as I think about the precious gift of children and what they mean to each of us as parents.

Yes -they may slump - slurp or slouch - but they are still blessings that cause our life to overflow with love and gratitude and a new dedication to help them through the slurping years. Who knows? They might even turn out refined, polished and proper like you and me.

Of course, now my four children have presented me with nine precious grandchildren. Shucks! If I had known the grandchildren were so much fun -- I would have had them first.

I have been amused to hear my children say, "Dad, I can't believe my kids are getting so big so fast."

I told them, "The older you get -- the faster time goes by. You had better enjoy every minute you have with them because one of these days they will be grown and gone and you will ask, 'where did all the time go'"?

When I think of my grandparents, I think about these words. Maybe the following will express how I really feel. I'll bet you might say "me too!"

I've never made a fortune.

And I guess it's too late now.

But I don't worry about that much

Cause I'm happy anyhow.

As I go through life's journey

I'm reapin better than I sowed,

I'm drinkin from my saucer,

Cause my cup has overflowed.

I don't have a lot of riches,

And sometimes the going's tough

But I got four kids that love me

And that makes me rich enough.

So I just thank God for His blessings

And the mercy He's bestowed,

I'm drinkin from my saucer,

Cause my cup has overflowed.

I remember times when everything went wrong

My faith grew kind of thin

After while those old dark clouds broke

And the sun peaked through again.

So, Lord, help me not to gripe

About the tough rows I've hoed

I'm drinkin from my saucer

Cause my cup has overflowed.

And if God will grant me strength and courage

When the way grows steep and rough

I'll not ask for other blessings

I've already been blessed enough.

And may I never be too busy

To help another bear his load

And I'll keep drinkin from my saucer

Cause my cup has overflowed.

Old friend Robert said, ""I have found that, rather than dwelling on the negative, if we will take a step back and consider the blessings in our lives, including seemingly small, sometimes overlooked blessings, we can find greater happiness."

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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

Life is measured by what you have learned

One thing I have a hard time with is being around people who seem to be so miserable. Do you know what I mean? When I think of that first sentence -- my mind immediately goes to a couple I saw a little over a year ago at a sporting event. I don't know their names - but I have never seen them smile, but I sure have seen and heard how miserable they are by the way they have talked to others -- especially people they don't know.

I am a firm believer in laughter and making others laugh. It seems that no matter where I go -- I find myself around people who feel the same way. Yet - when those who are miserable enter the room -- they continue to wear that scowl on their face and it doesn't take long for them to feel uneasy in their surroundings and leave.

Someone once said, "If you say you are happy -- then make sure you tell your face so others will know it."

I love the word "joy" and it should translate into happiness. But I have also learned that "joy" is an inside job. There is no way that you can express outward joy unless it begins inside your heart. You can't manufacture it. You certainly can't be in a room full of people who have joy and try to fool others because those who have inside joy can spot a fake a mile away.

My mother-in-law, who passed away in August, is named Joy. My oldest daughter is named LeJoy - which means "The Joy!" And both have been a joy to my life for many years.

I have spent years collecting things that "I've learned..." Perhaps a few more will bring joy and peace to your life.

    • I've learned...That money doesn't buy class.
    • I've learned...That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
    • I've learned...That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
    • I've learned...That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
    • I've learned...That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
    • I've learned...That love, not time, heals all wounds.
    • I've learned...That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
    • I've learned...That there's nothing sweeter than holding your grandbabies and feeling their breath on your cheeks.
    • I've learned...That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
    • I've learned...That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
    • I've learned...That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
    • I've learned...That I can choose how I feel.
    • I've learned...That when your newly born child holds your little finger in his little fist, that you're hooked for life.
    • I've learned...That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs in the valley.

Old friend Robert said, "I trust that you are experiencing great blessings at the start of a new year. May 2023 be your greatest year ever as you continue to learn life's lessons."

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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

Our conversations are going to the dogs

I don't think you realize that we probably use dogs when expressing ourselves.

I've got a Yorkie named Tank. He has a yappy bark and thinks he is big and tough until he meets a much bigger dog and then he runs for dear life to escape getting bit.

And for all you cat lovers out there -- as a reminder - what do you get when you spell "dog" backwards?

No wonder a dog is "Man's best friend" -- where 'man' is generic - man or woman.

We sometimes find ourselves at a game and when one team is beating the "dog" out of another team -- we cry out to the coach, "Call off the dogs!"

Or we might cheer for our team "Go Dawgs!"

You might hear a coach yell at a particular player - "Would you stop dogging it?"

You also hear someone at work say, "I have been working like a dog."

    1. "I'm dog tired" - which means what you just said.
    2. "My dogs are barking" - which refers to your feet hurting.
    3. "You Ain't Nothin' But a Hound Dog" - which was an Elvis song that drove my dad crazy when I would crank it up as a teenager.
    4. "This hole has a dog-leg" - golfing term meaning the hole turns sharply to the left or right from the tee box.
    5. "When you lie with dogs - you get up with fleas" - which refers to the bad company you keep.
    6. "He's in the doghouse" - the wife is not a happy camper.
    7. "They are underdogs" - a team expected to lose.
    8. "They fight like cats and dogs" - describes a married couple or their kids...or both!
    9. "He's a lap dog" - refers to a man who has no backbone.
   10. "Every dog has his day" - a person finally has their shining moment.
   11. "He's sick as a dog" - which means you might be hugging the toilet.
   12. "It's a dog-eat-dog world" - refers to living in a tough world.
   13. "The tail wagging the dog" - something smaller is controlling something bigger.
   14. "We need a doggy bag" - bringing home leftovers from the restaurant.
   15. "They have a dog and pony show" - not much quality.

Well - I guess those are all the doggone expressions I can give to you at the moment. I hope you aren't going to the dogs or putting on the dog at work. If you are - then remember that every dog has his day. And if you are currently reading a book - remember to dog-ear the page when you stop so you can remember where to start reading again.

Old friend Robert said, "And remember that most people's bark is worse than their bite. Especially the big dog you work for. As Jeb of the Beverly Hillbillies would say, "By doggies - that's something!"

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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

Lessons we must learn in life

I think that it is important that we realize that we never get too old to learn valuable lessons in life.

One day, a teacher gave her class a test. She listed the first part of some famous sayings, asking the students to fill in the rest. The responses were varied as well as humorous. Here are some of the more interesting answers.
  * You can't teach an old dog new . . .math.
  * The pen is mightier than the . . .pigs.
  * An idle mind is . . .the best way to relax.
  * A penny saved is . . .not worth much.
  * Two's company, three's . . .the Musketeers.
  * Where there's smoke, there's . . .pollution.
  * Children should be seen and not . . .spanked or grounded.
  * A rolling stone . . .plays the guitar.
  * A bird in the hand is . . .a real mess.
  * It's better to light one candle than to . . .waste electricity.
  * It's always darkest before . . .I open my eyes.
  * You have nothing to fear but . . .homework.
  * If you can't stand the heat . . .don't start the fireplace.
  * If you lie down with the dogs . . .you'll stink in the morning.
  * The squeaking wheel gets . . .annoying.
  * We have nothing to fear but . . .our principal.
  * I think, therefore I . . .get a headache.
  * Early to bed and early to rise . . .is first in the bathroom.
  * There is nothing new under the . . .bed.
  * The grass is always greener . . .when you leave the sprinkler on.
  * Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and . . .you have to blow your nose.
  * Laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and . . .someone yells, "Shut up!"

Well - perhaps today's young people have a little different perspective on life than us older folks. But it doesn't hurt to take a look back and realize that some of the greatest lessons we learned in life came from the simple times of life.

But one thing should never change and that is our appreciation for those that we love the most. Those who are there for us no matter what. Being loved has a greater importance.

Old friend Robert said, "A real friend is someone who walks into your life when the rest of the world has walked out."

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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

We need to be kinder in 2023

When President George Bush was inaugurated as President of the United States...everyone waited to hear what kind of challenge he would give to the nation in his Presidential address. You know what he said? "The United States needs to be a kinder and more gentler nation."

That's the need for the United States today. That's the need for your home and your life. Could it be said about you that you are a kind and gentle person?

I like what the little girls prayed -- "Dear Lord, Make all the bad people good and all the good people kind."

We have a lot of people who are good, but they have the need to learn how to be kind.

There is even a guy on Shark Tank, Daniel Lubetzky, who has a snack bar named KIND. Lubetzky was so committed to spreading kindness and giving back that he called the new brand KIND.

To be honest -- America is an angry nation. With social media and the access to spew anger to the those who will listen -- our first response to people is to be negative and hurtful through a text or other forms of social media platforms.

I began years ago deciding that I wasn't going to allow someone to ruin my day through negative interaction.

I realized that many of the people that cross our path in a negative way are people we will never see again. So why let them have their time to ruin your day?

Actually, we all do this on an occasional basis.

We go shopping and someone gets our parking spot. Instead of getting so worked up, go to another spot and say to yourself, "You are not going to ruin my day."

Get self out of the way and begin to think of how you might bring a smile to someone else.

One way I have been blessed is going through the drive-thru at Chick-fil-A and paying for the car behind me while telling the person at the drive-thru to tell the car behind me to "pass it on."

With 2023 underway, there are some other suggestions on how we can be a kinder and gentler nation and community.

Hold the door open for someone if they have their hands full. Or, even if they don't.

Let someone standing behind you in line at the grocery store go ahead if they have fewer items than you. Or, even if they don't.

Tell someone they look 10 years younger with their new hairdo. Even if they don't.

Never miss a chance to tell a kid you are proud of them when they accomplish something they've been working hard to achieve. Don't forget to do the same thing when they fail.

Give the man on the side of the road holding the sign that says he's hungry a few dollars if you can. He might be a scam artist, but you might also be the only reason he eats that day.

Let God sort it out. If you get scammed for doing the right thing, just know God is watching and giving you credit in the column side of kindness.

Send a note to a teacher or coach thanking them for loving your kid and wanting them to succeed almost as much as you do.

If a kid is selling something for school or for their youth sports team, buy it. If a kid is selling lemonade from a stand in their front yard, buy some. If a kid stops by your house and offers to do some work for a few dollars, find them some work.

And, don't forget to tell them you are proud of them.

Old friend Robert said, ""Treat everyone with kindness, even those who are rude to you — not because they are nice, but because you are."



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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

Time for New Year's Resolutions

It is that time of the year once again when people all around the world go through the process of making New Year's resolutions and we joke about how they won't last very long. The truth is -- we may joke about various resolutions, but deep in our heart, we long to change or adjust some attitudes, actions, or habits that we don't like about ourselves.

Over the past few years - I have noticed that the french fries, greasy hamburgers, and such like have decided to hang around me...if you know what I mean.

When I was traveling 35 weeks out of the year -- I burned a lot of energy...but you don't burn as much sitting in front of a computer eating potato chips.

As 2023 approaches -- I have decided that I am going to exercise. Certainly not the same way I did when I was playing college football -- but I am going to do more than lift a fork to my mouth.

My kids bought me a new bike a couple of years ago. I haven't ridden it much -- so then they decided that I needed a stationary bike. That way I can't make excuses about the elements being too hot, too cold, too wet, etc.

I did ask them to get the kind where I can hang a bag of chips on the handlebars on one side and a bag of candy on the other...OK - I'm just kidding.

I have listened to those who are believers about exercise and diets. Have you ever noticed the first three letters of the word "diet?" DIE!!!!

Here are a few questions with answers that someone sent me.

Q: I've heard that cardiovascular exercise can prolong life - is this true?

A: Your heart is only good for so many beats, and that's it... don't waste them on exercise. Everything wears out eventually. Speeding up your heart will not make you live longer; that's like saying you can extend the life of your car by driving it faster. Want to live longer? Take a nap.

Q: What are some of the advantages of participating in a regular exercise program?

A: Can't think of a single one, sorry. My philosophy is: No Pain...Good!

Q: Is getting in-shape important for my lifestyle?

A: Hey! 'Round' is a shape!

And remember: 'Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways - donut in one hand - chocolate in the other - body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming 'WOO HOO, What a Ride'!

AND.....For those of you who watch what you eat, here's the final word on nutrition and health. It's a relief to know the truth after all those conflicting nutritional studies.

   1. The Japanese eat very little fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

   2. The Mexicans eat a lot of fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

   3. The Chinese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

   4. The Italians drink a lot of red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

   5. The Germans drink a lot of beer and eat lots of sausages and fats and suffer fewer heart attacks than Americans.

The good news is, in all seriousness, I have lost around 35 pounds in the last year and feel great! I have nine grandchildren now and would like to be around to watch them grow up.

Old friend Robert says, "Eat and drink what you like. Speaking English is apparently what kills you."

Here's to a most blessed New Year and watching Judge Judy while riding on my indoor bike!



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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

A time to reflect and be thankful

One cold winter morning in the city of Birmingham, a woman noticed on the street a small boy with newspapers under his arms. He was without shoes and stood in his bare feet on the grating of the hot air vent outside a bakery.

Seeing his red, chapped feet, she was moved with pity and compassion. "Son, where are your shoes?" the lady asked. "Lady, I ain't got no shoes," was the simple reply.

The woman invited him to go with her to a store where she bought him some heavy shoes and socks. The little fellow - proud of his gifts - ran joyfully from the store without so much as thanking his benefactor.

She was somewhat disappointed at his lack of gratitude, but as she left the store, he came running back and exclaimed breathlessly, "Lady, I forgot to thank you for these nice warm shoes!" Then he continued, "Lady, I want to ask you a question. Are you God's wife?"

The lady was taken back and stumbled for a reply, and stuttered, "Why,! I'm just one of his children."

The little boy said, "Well, I knowed you must be some kin to Him!"

Christmas Day is upon us - it is a time of sharing and caring. Our lives must reflect a spirit of giving and love that goes beyond this time of the year.

In fact - we all should maintain the Christmas spirit every day of the year because our paths cross those, like this little boy, who have needs.

It is also a time when an old year will soon come to an end and a new year approaches. A time of reflection and a time of renewal. A time to learn from the past and a time to press on to the future. We are never sure what a new year holds for each of us. There will be times of great joy and moments, perhaps, of sorrow and disappointment.

My mother, who passed away a couple of years ago, used to remind me that she still had what I bought her for Christmas during my growing up years. I think she said it was a red pin cushion in the shape of an apple and something else. But my excitement to see the faces of my mom, dad, and little brother when they opened the small gifts that I personally selected was more valuable than the few dollars that I spent.

To be honest - I still have a problem of giving "gift cards" as a gift. I know it allows a person to get what they "really" want -- but it takes the thrill out of actually picking out that special gift for the loved ones in your life.

Today - we live in a world with our children of laptop computers, iPods, X-Box, and cell phones. I still cherish the Hopalong Cassidy lunch box that I still have at my home. The Fanner 50 toy pistol or the Roy Rogers rifle was pretty special. Or the new red bicycle that had two lights on the front is still vivid in my mind.

And I still remember the ribbon candy and the chocolate candy with the white filling that I found in my stocking. Some of you old timers remember that don't you?

But when it was all said and done -- and the presents had been opened and there was nothing left under the tree but a few of the bows that my mom would leave under the tree -- Christmas wasn't about "things" -- but about love and sharing. You can't wrap up love and put a bow on it. You can't purchase integrity, character, and honesty and give it as a gift.

As you unwrap your gifts this year -- remember the "reason for the season" and cherish those special moments that you have with people that you love who are near and dear to your heart. Those who offer unconditional love without a price tag. If you have someone in your life like that -- you are a most rich person.

Old friend Robert and I wish you a very Merry Christmas!



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From the Cluttered Dr. David Davis

Life isn't a dress rehearsal

I love to listen to jazz music. Not the traditional New Orleans jazz, but the new age, contemporary smooth jazz that has a modern fusion of many kinds of sounds and instruments. Some traditional and some modern sounds that will uplift you during the day.

I recently bought three CDs by Mars Lasar and Paul Hardcastle and they present some amazing sounds of beauty and total ambiance for relaxation.

One of the songs that Hardcastle presents is entitled, "Life isn't a dress rehearsal."

He reminds us through his music that life is real and you can't afford to treat life lightly. Life is short and it is quickly passing us by.

I was recently thinking about my time in south India where I have been a dozen times. I have walked along the sand on the bank of the Indian Ocean. It is one of the most beautiful spectacles you will ever see.

It was almost dark, and I was walking along the edge of the water, playing a little game of dodge-em with the waves. As I looked back, I noticed the long trail of footprints I'd left behind me.

I said, "Hey, I'm making a mark." Well, I had a distant jetty in my eyesight; that was going to be my goal. So, I walked that far, turned around and came back. I looked for that bold trail of footprints in the sand. Of course, there were no footprints. They were gone. I thought about that Hollywood theatre where celebrities put their hands and footprints in cement instead of sand. Maybe that's what I should try if I want my mark to last.

So many of our efforts are poured into, well, things that are like prints in the sand. A man or woman rises to a top position in their company, and everyone's looking to them, and they've got power, and they've got influence, and they've got importance. And then they retire or they're replaced. You know what - it's amazing how quickly that hole closes up. It takes about one day to change the name on the door. And the waves come in and wipe out all the years of footprints.

Or an athlete breaks a record, only to see someone else's wave to come in and wipe it out. Awards, titles, victories, great speeches, recognition, things we work so hard, sacrifice so much for. But those things come, and they go. The marks that last are not your achievements, but the people you touch.

Your children - they're wet cement. Don't be so busy making your mark at work that you don't give them your full attention. The people you teach, the people you manage, they are wet cement. You're marking them with your influence.

Old friend Robert said, "Put your prints in cement, where they'll last, not in sand where they will disappear."



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